Lindsey's rant on her blog makes me want to respond: (To see her blog entry, follow the link to their blog on the right)
To start, I COMPLETELY disagree with that whole entry, and can barely relate. No, we are not lying nor are we kidding ourselves.
When Ali and I were in Hawaii, we did think, "Should we be lazy here, at the pool, or on the beach with Anisha." We knew that we could nap when Anisha napped. We took pictures of the sunset, drank on the sunset cruise and Luau, and we didn't want to come back. As for sex, well, as any new parents can attest, it decreases with kids, BUT, you can find the time for that intimacy if you look for the opportunities.
Anisha did wake at 5:30 am, but that was because of the time difference. Hell, so did Ali and I, but I am an early riser anyways, so maybe that doesn't count. ANY restaurant can be child-friendly. We don't have the luxury of eating at the $50/person restaurants, and, quite frankly, we don't want to. We want to enjoy our meal and have fun. Travel is expensive enough as it is. In the end, Ali and I have NEVER asked ourselves if it was a good idea or not.
Anisha sleeps in a playpen and I sleep with Ali. Intimacy happens on a case by case basis. (As I always say, if something is important to you, or you think if should be important, you MAKE time for it).
I am a parent now and I don't want to be up all night drinking and partying. In fact, I was never for that lifestyle. Now that we have Anisha, we are thrilled to go out with her and be back at a reasonable hour to reflect on the day.
Our Hawaii vacation was great: It was both a trip and a vacation. Sure, we had people to watch Anisha when we wanted alone time, but many resorts/vacation spots in the world offer hourly childcare. (Yes, you have to use your best judgment with that, but that goes without saying, doesn't it.) And, when you are with your child, you get to see them experience life anew, and that is what vacations are all about: seeing them have fun and you enjoying it with them.
When I grew up, our "vacations" were always planned and stressful for my mom. She always came back home and wanted another vacation to relax. I never understood that. Maybe because I was a kid then, but even now, I don't really understand. My planning for a vacation is to know where we are going, what OPTIONS there are for activities, and we plan them on the moment, or a little before hand should the need arise. To this day, I have NEVER come back from a vacation, or trip, and felt stressed out.
Maybe I've just never taken life that seriously. I just know to enjoy myself and be serious when situations demand.
In the end:
1. All vacations can be great if you learn to RELAX!!! (I mean, isn't that the key?)
2. If something is important to you, make time for it to happen!
3. My tenant in life: I don't blame people for their problems, I only ask that they deal with them.